What did J. Krishnamurti say about sex?
Though no one attempted or answered about sex as clearly as K, his expressions have often appeared to be vague and long to many of his readers. However one point he has made is very clear. He said both licentiousness and suppression or control of sex, whether allowed or imposed by self or others are only extremes and ineffective. It is the Partial Damage Division and Conditioning of Consciousness that motivates over indulgence in sex or related acts, and also to often struggle to abstain from or control it.
Sex urge alone prompts a completely intelligent and discreet action of man, in his normal or un-conditioned state of Consciousness. However presently, mankind is often confused because the same act arises from both urge and intellectual motivation by conditioning for desire of pleasure.
Generally, it has also become mostly an act of pleasure or Compulsive Repetitive Intellectual Activity (CRIA), because the natural urge arises rarely and not as often as the desire for pleasure. This has given rise not only to violence and exploitation of women, but also worldwide over population.
By avoiding a simple and avoidable error in upbringing, both male and female children can be raised with high level of Consciousness as strong and stable individuals, who enjoy their lives fully and lead happy lives till the end by not disrespecting each other. A reasonably free Consciousness is not only capable of noticing the sexual urge, but is also discreet in indulging in it.
Simple logic is that when everyone in the world is not a rapist, it is also possible that many men may be discreet in indulgence too. Most normal and common people may not articulate or able to study, understand or explain this phenomenon to others. However, clever people have gone even to the extent of fooling people by wrongly emphasizing many points like, sex is essential, the more the better and also that sex can liberate or bring super consciousness etc.
All said and done, it is needless to state that frequent and constant motivation to sex has often been found as a great problem for man. He often finds he has no discretion, freedom or choice to be without desire to indulge, in private or close proximity of a woman. He often finds there is an indiscreet and involuntary urge pushing him to indulge in sex.
Sex need not be a taboo, but the over dominating desire as a CRIA appears to be the problem. Whereas the real problem is the weaker or Conditioned Consciousness that can be dominated by desire for pleasure in man. An un-fragmented Consciousness is stronger and stable, which neither the urges nor the intellectual desires for pleasure can dominate it.
Sex is an act or natural process in all living beings for continuation of their progeny. In most creatures including humans, the sperm is pushed out of the body into a female, where egg is waiting for fertilization. Since it is a mechanical function, prompting the glands to produce and the surrounding muscles to push the sperm, it needs enormous amount of energy.
This required enormous energy is partly or almost fully pulled away from the Consciousness. So the Consciousness becomes almost blank, obviously resulting in the absence of perception including that of misery. This fake blank state is remembered as a rare freedom or ‘bliss’ by the divided Consciousness, and thus begins to seek repetition of the same.
Unbelievably, when permanent freedom or ‘bliss’ can be obtained by de-conditioning or de-fragmenting the Consciousness, the need of constant or CRIAs of sex to escape from misery doesn’t arise. Then man indulges in sex act only with mutual consent and mainly for the purpose of progeny only. Women may understand this issue only intellectually, obviously because the physical process and the consequent perception by consciousness are different in men and women.
Ancient Indian Psychology explains and compares the urges of men and women as like the dynamic wind in men and the static earth in women.
Many often ask whether sex is also like all other human intellectual activities. That is a crucial question. It is partly and often, Yes and no. Sex is a natural physical urge of the body also, but the same act is often used for pleasure as CRIA.
However, unlike animals, man has the ability to be discreet about it, but in the free or un-fragmented state of Consciousness. In that state, man is free from ‘conditioning of or by knowledge’. So his level of Consciousness is high and it is also strong, stable, single, non-dual etc. So the urge is unable to dominate the Consciousness. Hence the Consciousness retains the discretion. Only in mankind the Consciousness, in its undivided state, is capable of being stronger than the urges of protection (fear) and procreation.
